tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032580153342228975.post5194576943768794346..comments2023-05-29T21:37:28.922+01:00Comments on 52 First Dates: Mr #41 - Pocket PrinceCTShttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02786395045890215519noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032580153342228975.post-77901773366816441552013-02-10T23:22:22.804+00:002013-02-10T23:22:22.804+00:00It's 23.18 on Sunday night. I have work in the...It's 23.18 on Sunday night. I have work in the morning. My hand is going numb holding my phone up whilst I continue to read about all of your dates. I might be shattered in the morning, but if I don't finish reading them tonight, I'll have to throw a sickie and continue tomorrow instead of going to work! Better crack on then! NinaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032580153342228975.post-14905886986122213062012-03-24T17:54:31.022+00:002012-03-24T17:54:31.022+00:00I take it back then! Boys are silly aren't the...I take it back then! Boys are silly aren't they! Just for your interest, when I read the current Mr Spoon's profile, I didn't think we had any interests or anything in common, but there was just something about his photo and his profile that charmed me. He was also 10 years older, but I didn't let that put me off, though it so easily could. He was totally flattered to be contacted, but didn't reply that frequently because he was working crazy shifts. He wasn't a graduate (I am) but he had his own flat and car and had something to say that wasn't just football. <br /><br />We still don't have that much in common on paper, but we just 'get' each other. Ultimately we are very good friends; I fancy him but its not total pant wetting lust, its love. So hard to quantify. Good luck with your search however, can't wait for no. 42!Stephbospoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10569307118452215219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032580153342228975.post-28129355042748804122012-03-24T16:58:59.614+00:002012-03-24T16:58:59.614+00:00Hi guys, thanks again for your comments. Curiousre...Hi guys, thanks again for your comments. Curiousreader - with the greatest of respect, I don't think 30-35 emails is realistic at all - I don't have that sort of time to email that many people with personal, thought out emails, I work a hell of a lot, and struggle as it is to keep on top of replying to incoming emails as well as sending outgoing ones. There are lots of people out there who cut and paste generic messages to what must be hundreds of people, and you can tell a mile off. It's thoughtless and does nothing to make people think you've chosen their profile specifically.<br />And Stephbospoon, I'm afraid I ahve to disagree with you there too - I don't go for the phenomenally hot people at all, I do believe it or not have the capacity to look deeper into people than that. The people I choose to email all have similar interests or outlooks on life, do things that I find interesting or have a sense of humour that appeals to me. And as I said, very rarely they get back to me because I think on dating sites especially, boys are more shallow and judge on photos than girls are, not the other way round as you seem to think I'm doing. I've been on lots of dates, and I am well aware that people rarely look as good as they do in photos, so that is not why I choose them. I think you mis-read me when I wrote 'wonderful looking' - I didn't mean lookswise, I am far from shallow! I meant their profile looks wonderful to me in terms of who they describe themselves to be. The whole point of going on a date a week is ot meet people I wouldn't normally have chosen and not to be judgemental which is exactly what I'm doing, and in a fair few cases I've been very pleasantly surprised. I'm just not there yet. But I will get there.CTShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02786395045890215519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032580153342228975.post-89972784433484032082012-03-24T16:50:45.031+00:002012-03-24T16:50:45.031+00:00I love your blog and totally dig what you're d...I love your blog and totally dig what you're doing, however I agree with the posters above. Having done internet dating for a while a few years back myself, but now three years into a lovely relationship with a nice man I fancy (who I met on-line) I must say that if you are going for the fantastically good looking ones only, that is probably why you're not getting very far as they have the pick of the bunch!<br />I remember getting really demoralised when even the freaks didn't get back to me, but I changed the way I was looking. If they looked and sounded nice, with a personality and I reckoned they shared the same level of attractiveness as myself (you have to give yourself an honest appraisal, with no false modesty or negativity) I went for it. I had many dates and a few flings but finally got there. Don't judge a book by its cover when approaching people. Cast your net far and wide and don't go looks-wise for what everyone else does. And stop going on dates with people you know for sure you won't fancy. We will forgive you if you don't his the full 52 week quota!Stephbospoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10569307118452215219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032580153342228975.post-2792684007636461932012-03-23T15:34:10.240+00:002012-03-23T15:34:10.240+00:00Sending 10 emails a week is nothing! You should be...Sending 10 emails a week is nothing! You should be sending 30-35 emails to men you are actually interested in every week. From these you should get 2-3 responses of which one should materialize into a first date.<br />I know where you are coming from as I tried to go on a date per week last year, and when no one is responding its easy to settle for '...he'll do, and can be my date for the week', but its better to hold the no date anxiety, and actually approach and try to go on dates with men you're attracted to. You'll be more excited about the dates you go on, there'll be more anticipation, and at the end of this 52 first dates experiment there is more likelihood you'll have actually met someone.CuriousReadernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032580153342228975.post-29103689746971713332012-03-22T22:42:35.642+00:002012-03-22T22:42:35.642+00:00hi Thirtysomething, thanks for your comment. Actua...hi Thirtysomething, thanks for your comment. Actually, I do go to great lengths to approach men that I like the look of online, but very rarely do they like the look of me in return. So to keep up my quota of going on a date a week, I have to cast the net wider so to speak, and go on dates with people I wouldn't have otherwise agreed to. But of course, you don't hear about the 10 or so wonderful looking men I must email a week in the faint hope of getting a date, as 99% of the time they ignore me. Sad, but true. CTS xCTShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02786395045890215519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032580153342228975.post-80934887085013568292012-03-21T19:43:35.033+00:002012-03-21T19:43:35.033+00:00I have just finished reading about all 41 of your ...I have just finished reading about all 41 of your dates in about three sittings. You write endearingly well so it wasn't difficult. I conclude you are not ugly, dumb or lacking in charm/humour. However I can already tell you how it ends: Date 52 happens; you're no closer to having a beau. Reason: You wait to be approached (online), never approach yourself. If this method works for you, fair enough. If this is an amusing way to pass the time, fair enough. But if you're seriously wanting a boyfriend, which I gather you do, then I think you should rethink your methods because you don't sound like you remotely fancy any of these men.thirtysomethingnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8032580153342228975.post-5776730402326572922012-03-20T23:07:08.392+00:002012-03-20T23:07:08.392+00:00Nice to find decent ones every once in a while, ev...Nice to find decent ones every once in a while, even if they are short!<br /><br />(I hope you don't mind that this comment isn't upward of 500 words... you sort of set a precedent on the ladder today!)<br /><br />RCxRitzi Cortezhttp://climbingritzisladder.comnoreply@blogger.com