Here's the deal. I've been single since time immemorial. So, in an attempt to remedy my eternal singledom, and to get over my nauseatingly pathological fear of dates, I've decided to challenge myself. The challenge? To go on one first date a week for a year! So in 52 weeks time, I will have either found my Mr Right, or I'll stay forever Miss Write. This is what happens...


The Rules

Here are the rules to the 52 First Dates challenge...

1. A first date must be had once a week, EVERY week, for 52 weeks.

2. Taking someone home after a drunken night on the cider does NOT count, otherwise this challenge would just be slutty, and none of us want that do we?!?

3. Second and third dates are allowed, I must continue first dates unless there are exceptional mitigating circumstances. For example, God forbid, the start of a relationship.

4. Each date must be blogged.

05 June 2012

Mr #50 - the Nutter

The preamble:
So once again I owe you guys an apology - not for going on my date #50 late, oh no, I did meet him in good time, I've just not got round to writing him up on account of being homeless. So many apologies, and for this very same reason I fear Mr #51 may be a little tardy in the offing too...but since you've stuck with me this far, I hope you'll not object too much. Anyroad, Mr #50, would you like to meet him? Good. So Mr #50 had been messaging on and off for a couple of weeks, he looked very nice and safe, he used full sentences when texting which always a ticks a certain box with me. And amid the chaos of my packing and moving and misplacing most of my essential possessions, we arranged to meet near Angel for a drink.

The man:
Age: 37

Profession:  Importer of gourmet foods, namely nuts and dried fruit

Random factoid:  There was nothing random about this man whatsoever. Which was all in all rather disappointing...

The date:
Before we met, Mr #50 had promised to take me out on the Sunday afternoon for tea and cake. But as the date crept ever nearer, he retracted his offer in favour of a quiet Pimms, which under normal circumstances I wouldn't mind, but I'd been sat in all bloody day waiting for some bastard from Freecycle to come and collect my sofa (they never turned up by the way, I know you were wondering...) and I'd had cake on the brain for hours. When we confirmed our plans on the day, I was surprised that Mr #50 actually rang me a couple of times, which always catches me off guard a little as most people opt for the text approach rather than risk hearing what the other person sounds like and bottling it. You know what? He sounded lovely. Nice and normal. Great. Cake retraction forgiven. And I was looking forward to meeting him. So that evening I managed to peel myself away from my boxes to scamper over to Angel, where I met Mr #50. He was tall, dark, handsome with rather lovely blue eyes. Excellent work I thought! So we pottered off to a pub of my choosing, equipped ourselves with a pair of Pimmses and got to know each other. Within a relatively short space of time, I'd established that Mr #50 was rather passive aggressive. He controlled the conversation with almost military precision, and whenever he tired of a subject and wanted to move on, he'd use the same phrase every time: 'oh it's all fun and games isn't it'. Over time, this got a little wearing. Conversation, at his behest, was mostly about relationships - infidelity (he'd been with his ex for 9 years before she left him for someone else), kids, home-buying, utilities companies, and his business. We're both in the same position as we're both in the process of buying somewhere to live, and are technically homeless, but he kept putting everything about his move into the perspective that he'd like to buy somewhere that when he gets into a relationship (which he may have mentioned about a million times) that he'll think about where they should both live, and rent his place out. This man was frighteningly keen to settle down. But then to try and counteract this incredibly keen assertion that he wants to move in with someone, he'd then profess who finding dating 'terribly fickle', and that he doesn't have the energy anymore. Not convinced sunshine. Not in the slightest. He was also all-too-keen to over analyse me, calling me 'my own person' (what the fuck does that mean when it's at home?), telling me I was very 'London' (what do you mean by that, likening me to one of the most cosmopolitan cities in the world) and subtly patronising me for the fact that I live alone, am buying my own place and I have my own independence. The final nail in the coffin was when he managed to make me jaw drop by saying that if we were to get together, because both of us are homeless, we'd have to get 'at it' in the back of his Mini, like (and I quote) 'a pair of horny teenagers'. Game over. Game well over! Fortunately we were both sucking on dry mint leaves at this point, and seeing it was a school night, I made my excuses to leave. And despite my favourable first impressions, I did not look back.
Memorable Quotes:
'I don't want to have to resort to Thai brides until I'm at least 50'


'There's only so exciting almonds can be'. You're telling me!

Events of note:
Taking subtle notes on the decor in the pub for my new place...taxidermied birds, bowler hat lamp shades and dog print upholstery are now on the 'to buy' list.
The Verdict:
Am I going to see him again? No chance. I'd like to meet someone who appreciates my independence and also is content to have their own. Not someone who suddenly want to leap straight in to co-habitation and instantly becoming joined at the hip (in both senses of the word). I'm sure there's a lady out there in exactly the position to tick his proverbial boxes, but she ain't me. No siree.

6 comments:

  1. Love your dating tales!..... :-)

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  2. Crikey sounds like he's still in that rebound patch where he's nuts to replace the one that left him. Do they call that neutered I can't remember, there was some 'amusing' phrase for guys recently bereft of a long term relationship and quite unsure how to get on. Anyway I digress, looks like he was looking for a replacement! RUN!

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  3. I would love to know if you are still going out with Sherlock or not? We liked him!

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  4. He's in Italy until September. We had a second date, and then he left. CTS x

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  5. Next time you hear of him he'll be in Thailand getting married me thinks!

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  6. Blimey, this guy sounds... special. I'm well-impressed you've managed to keep up the stamina to go on 50 first dates so far. I really am!

    As for Sherlock... oh well, pity you won't have the opportunity to have some summer/hot weather dates... assuming the second date went well, that is!

    All the best for the move and the final stretch!

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